A Girl’s Girls Dream
Earlier this year, I was leaving a charming little pottery shop where you work on the wheel and paint your pieces. I had just bought a new pair of espresso-colored mules and I was so excited to wear them, pairing them with a maroon dress that felt a bit like a smoke -- I was trying to give artist. As I headed to the door, a little girl walked past and looked up at me and said, “You look really pretty.” I smiled and expressed my gratitude, feeling joy radiate from that moment throughout the day. Her words affirmed me in a way that reminded me I was doing something right. I glanced over at her mom, who wore a proud smile. These moments highlight the beauty of girlhood and womanhood.
I’m a girl’s girl at heart, blessed with an abundance of sisters and friends who feel more like family as the years go on. Sometimes, I feel an instant connection with women I have just met. Growing up surrounded by kind, talented, and patient women has shaped who I am today. I think of the women that influenced my style: my paternal grandma that only wore one-of-a-kind pieces; my maternal grandma who believed there is always room for a new outfit; my Auntie Iris, who encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and to always look put together.
Currently I’m on my third rewatch of Sex and the City. I was reminded that I have a disdain for Mr. Big and his antics, but also the impeccable styling that influenced many women. Patricia Fields crafted the outstanding outfits worn by Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha. Carrie made statements with her newspaper dress and tulle skirts, while Charlotte embodied preppy elegance, Miranda brought seriousness to a light-hearted world, and Samantha embraced flirtation with bold reds and pinks. Each woman’s distinct style resonates with so many, reminding us that even in a world that often pushes conformity, we can still celebrate our differences.
Building connections with other women has allowed me to explore new things, gain confidence, and step into my power. It’s like a pay-it-forward system: the women who raised me poured so much into my life and I feel joy pouring into others. Whether it’s giving a random compliment or encouraging someone to try something new, these gestures embody a bit of girlhood and make my inner child smile. I’m always looking for ways to make little Lex happy.
I am so grateful for the influences of family members, friends, fictional characters, and the incredible women I encounter daily – each exuding confidence in their stride. Together we are stronger when we build community, break bread, embrace our individuality, and uplift each other.